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On Leaving Our Insecurities Behind As Women

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“He who trims himself to suit everyone,

will soon whittle himself away.” 

~Raymond Hull

We are all broken people.  We all have our weird habits and quirky behaviors.  Keeping our stuff to our self may seem like a safe haven, but in reality, it is a slow way to suffocate.

We need one another.
We also hate being hurt.
So we push people away.

Behind closed doors, after a long day of being strong and playing fearless, we relentlessly give way to our yoga pants, a spoon and a full half gallon ice cream dipping marathon.

Because we are tired.
Tired of fighting.
Tired of trying.
Tired.

We don’t want people to know we are human.  That we make mistakes.  That we sometimes feel like kicking and screaming instead of fighting the front lines of parenting or our marriage.  

So we don’t ask for help.  Once again, we put on our happy church face instead of saying, I need help.  I need help.  

Let’s face it, we all need help.  We are all hopelessly flawed.  On our best day, we are weak and just need a friend to vent to.  To accept us.  As is.  Weird quirks and all.

That’s how you know you’ve found a true friend.  When you can be raw and open with your deepest needs and failures, and be accepted with open arms, and a tub full of Byrne Dairy Holy Cow.

So, can we leave our insecurities at the door, ladies?  Because at the end of the day, we all just want to be accepted and loved.  To be free to have the deep conversations and also perform the infamous ugly cry, belly laugh, and snort milk up our nose if need be.

So be that friend.  Drop the walls.  Drop the masks.  Drop it all, for the sake of the greater good.  Bury your differences in the sand.  

Stop pretending you have it all together and stop fearing others won’t think you are the amazing person you are because you don’t.  Because you are.  Amazing.  

Don’t let friendships die because you’ve been hurt.  Put hurt aside because you know in your heart you are kindred spirits.  

Insecurities build barriers that were meant to be torn down and left for dead.  

So leave them for dead and be a woman who rises above her insecurities for the greater good.  We need one another, flaws and all. We are broken and need one another.  We need Jesus in the middle.

Psalm 119:105-112 MSG… I love what it says here:

“Everything’s falling apart on me, God;

    put me together again with your Word.”

Like broken puzzle pieces, He picks up the broken pieces and puts us together again with His Word!


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Comments

  2. An inspiring and encouraging post on broken. All too often we leave those masks on instead of being real with each other. We are all broken. How thankful I am that He is strong and capable and I can depend on the Lord.

    Blessings and love,
    Debbie

  3. Hi Traci, I just found your site and I look forward to returning often. This post really touched my heart. I’ve had times when I tried to look like I had it all together until my life fell apart and my mess was exposed to the world. Honesty about the way God is working in our mess blesses us and others. I am broken but He is my everything and that makes everything blessed.

  4. What an encouraging post. You didn’t say anything I don’t know. But you reminded me of things I don’t practice, people I avoid because of hurt. Thank you.

  5. God never fails to put us back together even when we were the ones who jumped and broke ourselves into pieces because of our pride or sin. He is faithful and forgiving. Thank you for sharing. Glad I found you on teh Tommy Nelson Mommies page. I am looking for direction for my life and wnat to be used of God through blogging. I hope you can stop by my blog sometime and let me know what you think.