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D-I-V-O-R-C-E

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Living in the same house, we can get too busy with life.  We manage to simply “get through the day”, instead of choosing to live abundantly.  
Conversations about how much diapers costs, and when will we get to that home repair? seem to hog the lime light.  The necessity of talking about the children and how we need to be more disciplined in correction and love. They cloud our view of the soul connection.
We aren’t meeting, face to face.  We are all in a bustle, going in different directions.  The more we choose not to stop, and connect… the more we get all huffy and impatient.  Words are not seasoned with grace and love, but anger and irritation.  
We are one flesh, and meant to remain as such.  May we never even “think” about getting to the point of that ugly 7-letter-word, divorce.  Horrible and unspeakable, right?  Yes indeed!  
But what about the daily divorce of the soul-connection? 
When I choose to put myself first, and leave him in the dust.
When I choose not to respect him.
When I choose not to think lovely thoughts about him throughout the day.
When I choose to let bitterness creep up.
When I choose to deny him intimacy.

You see, it really comes down to obedience.  I have a choice each day.  To obey my Father, and deny my own fleshly desires (lust of the eyes, lust of the flesh, and the pride of life), and walk in the Spirit.
 
Beyond the spotlight of church pews and family gatherings, it is in the still of the four walls, called home, that Christ asks us to live out pure, unconditional love.
Some simple ways to avoid 
the divorce-of-the-soul-connection:

1) Don’t neglect to meet with your Heavenly Father, first, face to face.

We all are selfish, and cry out for our own ways and rights.  Lay them at the foot of your Savior, through prayer and reading of His Word.  Confess your sins often, and keep the communication line with God free and clear of the burden of unconfessed sin.

2) Think lovely thoughts about your hubby throughout the day.
I love what Courtney says, from Women Living Well: 

Imagine you had a cup of hot tea in your hand and your husband bumped your arm and it spilled onto the table. What came out of the cup? Hot tea. If you had coffee, then coffee would have spilled out. In the same way, if you are filling your mind with bitter thoughts towards your husband – then when your “cup gets bumped” what’s going to spill out? Bitter words. But if your mind is filled with good thoughts – then when your “cup gets bumped” what is going to spill out? Compassion and forgiveness.  When a plain ordinary wife spends her day thinking thankful, loving and respectful thoughts about her plain ordinary husband – they can have an extraordinary marriage.


3) Take time to remember all the special times you’ve shared together.

4) Pray for Him throughout the day.

5) Thank God for your spouse.  Write down all his best qualities.


6) Thank him often for being a great husband and/or father.  

7) Make time to “play” with him (a game, a funny conversation, flirty banters, etc).  
The intimacy of marriage is not always about the bed, but about the friendship.  When the intimacy of the friendship-union is tended to, the other naturally follows.  
  

What are you doing 
to cultivate your marriage?

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