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Can’t Be Tamed! Is This What We Are Teaching Our Daughters?

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As a Mom, this video down right broke my heart.  Seriously, it brought me to tears.  It also enraged me.  Is this what we are teaching our little girls?  My precious four year old daughter, will one day be 8, and 10, and God help me now, 13!

Please be very careful what you allow your children to watch and who you allow them to follow and idolize.  You do have a say in the matter!
Sin always lies.  It promises gratification and pleasure, and always leaves one empty and alone.
I know that many young, innocent girls idolize her:
Personally, I’ve never seen what the hype is all about.   
Again, after this video, I’m down right saddened.  It is also scary.  But not surprising.
With the rise in the vampire obsession and other sensual/evil films, this is now what our young girls are driven towards.
Sin. Darkness. Evil.  (Insert Goosebumps here.) 
A video full of sensuality, glamorizing having no control over our own bodies as women; that we can’t be tamed by our own desire for men, sex, and all the evil pleasures of the world.  Rolling around like an animal, rubbing hand against chest in a seductive way.
Down right disgusting.  Pure evil.  Some liken it to a Sodom and Gomorrah “feel”. 
I’m truly outraged.  We need to take a stand as mothers and not allow this! 
Teach your children at a young age who they should look up to.  Show them godly examples of women in the Bible like Ruth and Esther.   Read them stories about missionaries like Amy Carmichael and women of God stood up for their faith and love for God.

Better yet, be that living example of a woman that lives and obeys what God’s says each day in your home.
Constantly remind them of these truths:
1)  Sin always lies and brings destruction. (Proverbs 14:12)
2)  Sin brings death and always has consequences. (James 1:15)
3)  Be a leader, not a follower.  Don’t  just be a crowd appeaser.  
4)  Our body is the temple of the Holy Spirit.  Dress and act in a modest way. (1 Cor. 6:19)
5)  Don’t seek to be noticed by men.  God does not want us walking around, “advertising ourselves”.  There are street corners for that:  (See Proverbs 7)
It is time that we stand up and say enough is enough.  Don’t be afraid to sit down and have a heart to heart with your daughter, who may be idolizing people like Miley Cyrus.

We need to be covering our children in prayer, and standing on the front lines of the battle for their eternal souls.  If they know the Lord, Satan wants to feed them subtle lies like this video portrays. 

Some lyrics to her song:

Have to get my way, 24 hours a day
I go through guys like money flyin’ out their hands 
I can’t be tamed, I can’t be saved
I can’t be blamed, I can’t, can’t
I can’t be tamed, I can’t be changed
I can’t be saved, I can’t be (can’t be)
I can’t be tamed.
Mothers… tell your daughters, they can be tamed by the Blood of Christ! 

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  2. This is the perfect example why we can’t allow our children to do what all the other kids are doing. Miley Cyrus is not someone I want my daughter looking up to. So she doesn’t watch her shows or listen to her music. She does not dress modestly and wears way too much make up.

  5. So true!! I am saddened by the messages that young girls are getting these days. My own daughters(13 & 4yrs) thankfully do not listen to this kind of music. We would never permit it. But my heart aches for girls who do get caught up in it.

  6. Sigh…just a big siiiiiiigh. It’s sad to think that her parents were the ones to puch her into the potlight and seem just fine with sexualizing her as a teenager and now that she is free to make her own decisions…well she’s jumping off from what was already allowed. I hope someday God brings her home, and changes her and tames her and most of all FREES her from the sin that seems so enticing as an 18 year old with money to burn. Sigh.

  7. Oh yes, preach it my sister! My heart breaks over this as well.

    I noticed the beginning of this trend while my children were five and seven even when I was simply clothes shopping for them. I tried to find clothes that didn’t make them look like little vixens and it was hard. Thirteen years later we are continuing to reap the consequences of over-sexualizing our little girls.

  8. I have 3 girls (7,5,1) – and it frightens me what battles lie ahead for them. Inappropriate images of girls and women are everywhere – and they are targeted from such a young, naive age. As mothers, we have our work cut out for us – I cover their precious lives in prayer every day.

  9. this is Nicole Wright, i’m Janettes 19 year old daughter and my mom had me sit down and read this. I work with freshmen highschool girls, along with a bunch of middle school girls and the thing that makes me so angry is that women know they have desires that God has placed on their hearts, to desire men, and to desire a closeness, and i’ve already been very frustrated with miley’s video and talked to many ELEMENTARY school girls about it. BUT the sad thing is, if Miley doesn’t want to be tamed, and doesn’t want to be saved, then she doesn’t want to be pursued in the right way, and she doesn’t want to be respected. If i could tell Miley one thing, it would be, do you realized that Lindsey Lohan and Britney Spears BOTH refused to be tamed and look at the way they have ended up. No body said that getting older, ment you can start dressing and acting sexier.

  11. I have never likes Miley cyrus, but after watching that video I am appalled at how awful it was.I cannot believe parents would let their children watch things like that. It’s sad that our world has turned to this and as Christians I hope we are more careful to monitor these things so that our children are not watching them.

  12. Nothing surprises me about this girl. A couple of years ago she touted a purity ring and claimed that the Bible was her guidebook.

    What I see now just re-affirms my thoughts about it then: “She is only saying that to deceive the Christian guys and girls. ” I certainly didn’t see any conviction in her life.

    Great thoughts about this. I needed to read this post to also re-affirm my commitment to finish my seriously overdue book project.

    Helping young ladies to see themselves as the temple of God and is something I have a heart for. It grieves me so much to see how they are just throwing themselves at everyone and as a result throwing themselves away.

    God made us for so much more than this. I use to be one of those girls, but the same Christ who pulled me up out of that pit and showed me that I was valuable and precious in His sight can do the same for them.

  13. thank you so much. my daughter loves hannah montanna and over the last couple of years we have had to scale back but this definitly was eye opening. can u please guest post on my blog and let publish this post on my blog. WOW

  14. I am stunned. I can’t believe that Hollywood, people, the world etc.. has made it okay for that kind of thing to be okay. I often wonder what my children will face and how they will deal with it when I am not around. So glad we don’t watch a lot of TV and movies on the main screen.

  15. What a great post. It is an on going conversation with my girls about guarding their heart and keeping their eyes on God. Last year I let our daughter read a popular vampire series and began to notice some negative changes in her personality. I went in her room and prayed, right away I was drawn to those books, I removed them and had a heart to heart with her and why we need to always guard our heart from evil.
    Wendy

  17. This precious girl (Miley) needs our prayers. There is hope for her, just like anyone else. Jesus wants to hold His dear baby girl again and as a community of believers, we need to lift her up. It’s so sad to see her following the same destructive path that so many other girls (and boys) have taken… so deceived by what it will bring them short term. Thanks for sharing this, Traci.

  19. So sad. It’s like the song that’s “all the rage” right now by Eminem and someone….(hopefully I’ve blocked it out mentally) I phoned one of the parents of my 10 year olds best friend 0nly to have this as their ringer) Really is that how we want our children to feel about relationships? That it’s acceptable??
    ***warning**** FOUL language in lyrics
    http://www.directlyrics.com/eminem-love-the-way-you-lie-lyrics.html
    I am SO very saddened by what is considered acceptable in songs! and sadly enough SO many people think of Miley as good role model material for their girls. UGH

  21. I had a huge comment for this… but I’m just not going to post it.

    I like Miley’s music. That does not make me a mom who allows her children to dress explicitly, nor does it make me less of a christian.

    I’m sure that there are lots of people who would judge me based on my blue hair and eyebrow piercings too… but only Christ knows one’s heart.

  22. @ Rachel…

    I would never judge you. I love Miley and care for her soul deeply. I don’t know what is going on in her heart, but there must be a lot of insecurities and “crying out” for attention.

    I can’t wait to check out your blue hair and piercings @ Relevant next week! 🙂

    I guess I would ask you these questions:

    1) What in this video promotes anything of God?

    2) What kind of positive influence is she portraying?

    3) Would you want your daughter rolling around on the ground like an animal, selling herself?

    4) Sin is very deceptive… do you think just maybe this could be a plot of Satan to deceive young girls into thinking they are nothing more than “meat” and don’t have any control over their body?

    I’d love to hear your responses on this.

    LOVE YOU GIRL!

    Traci

  23. I agree completely. I didn’t view the video, don’t need to.

    It’s very difficult to rear children, especially girls, today. It always has been, but with the lack of morals and vulgarity towards women…I’m scared to death on the fight we have ahead of us.

    Go girl!

    Trish
    PS. Thanks for stopping by last week. I’ve been on “vacation” for the most part with my blog. It was great to “see” you there.

  25. 1. No promoting of any spiritual values in this video… but there are lots of other songs that don’t either… like “the twist”. 🙂
    2. In one interview, Miley states that this song to her reminds her of a young girl trapped by a possesive relationship- in which she decides that she doesn’t have to be controlled by men or any one person.
    3. Of course not. Nor would I encourage them to chop off their left ear as VanGoh had done. Yet, I still educate them about his wonderful paintings.
    4. Yes sin is deceptive. I agree. But I think that the deception lies deeper than just mere videos, books and film. And truly, I feel that the bigger deceptions that many christian women in particular face are: envy, gossip, judgement, fear and anxiety, pride and control {thinking we can manage our homes on our own} and at times vanity. I mean- yes, to a point… the fact that I color my hair is considered vanity.

    So really- I’m just going to rely on my dominant spiritual gift here… and go with mercy. I feel empathy and mercy for this otherwise bright young girl. I pray that in her life’s journey, that she will find her way to a deeper relationship with Christ Jesus. I pray for those who guide her career… {as she has managers and bosses like lots of working people} I pray that in the midst of all of this crazy untamed individualism- that she will one day sparkle for the Lord with the same unbridled passion.

    Until then, I probably won’t watch the video or sing the words aloud… but by golly I do like some good jamz. 🙂

    ps. I love you too! 🙂 I guess that my level of mercy at times is to a fault… 😛

  26. There is a huge difference between a grown woman making the choice to listen to this song or watch this video and the young girls whom this is being marketed towards.

    Miley has a HUGE following of young girls because of her work as a young child. Now she is growing up and wants to start doing grown up things. What she doesn’t realize is that those little girls are still watching her. Those little girls idolize her. What is appropriate at one age, may not be appropriate at another age.

    It is not my place to judge, yet I have to think that if we, as Christians, do not stand up for our morals, for our daughters, then it is only going to get worse.

  27. I pray for Miley Cyrus, Brittany Spears, Lindsay Lohan, all of them. If their hearts were changed and tamed for Christ, what a testimony that would be to the rest of the world! God can still save them…

  30. I wanted to chime in yesterday – but didn’t get a chance. I have to say that the thing that disturbs me the most in all of this is that so many are no longer concerned about protecting the innocense of children. We are in a hurry to grow them up. And the role models the media has chosen to set before our children are filthy-mouthed, skimpy, sex-crazed creatures without an ounce of morality in their body. It is imperitive for us as Christians to teach our children how to choose godly, moral, upstanding men and women to model our lives after.

    I have nearly come to the place (if not already) where I simply cannot stomach anything new coming out of the media machine – be that music, movies, tv….take your pick. Their agenda, hype, and abuse of children (yes, abuse – what else do you call it when a child gets paid to swear and act like a tramp!) is beyond the pale for me. And I do not want my children exposed to it.

    I hope this isn’t coming on too strong.

  32. I don’t think that singers who are Christians need to sell Jesus like Amway — i.e., they don’t need to sing Jesus lyrics or constantly quote the Bible to prove anything (and there are verses to support that basing our faith on these outward professions can be false). But what about being salt and light? We as Christians should have a flavor about us that sets us apart. So should poor Miley. She’s getting to be a big girl, but her parents will have much to answer for. They should all receive our prayers.

    What I find most disturbing about this video is the “I can’t be” refrain. In other words, her biology/sexuality and psychology are her destiny, something that the most conservative AND liberal Christians can and should repudiate.

    And even if Miley says the song is about escaping a possessive boyfriend, the video is NOT scripted in that way at all — the images are almost completely sexual, and leave no room for interpretation. I think I can say that pole-dancing in near bondage gear (which seems to be this age’s sole interpretation of “empowered” sexuality) can be whole-heartedly rejected while at the same time having mercy on Miley herself.
    –Melissa