For all you married gals out there. . . it is not our job to make cookies for another woman’s husband.
Simply go out of your way to please one man, the one that is yours!
Whether you have been married for just a year, 5, 10, 20, or 50 . . . it does not take long to learn what your husband enjoys.
Is it…
- a smiling, happy wife?
- a warm meal on the table when he gets home?
- a back rub?
- a tidy home?
- organization?
- words of affirmation?
- lots of hugs, kisses, and affection?
- having fun with him?
- cleaning and ironing his clothes?
- a phone call just to tell him that you love and appreciate him?
Why not make a list?
Then number them according to what you think is most important to him. Look at your top 3. Now strive to do those 3 things for him every day.
Too hard? I say no.
Now, there are days when I feel like a down right horrible wife. I’m over emotional. Teary. Grumpy.
But when I stop to thank God for all the wonderful things my husband does for me, I can’t help but be thankful. I also realize that God gave me 1 husband. Just 1! I need to take time daily to cultivate my appreciation for him. God commands it.
Ephesians 5:33: “Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.”
My top 3 for my hubby:
1) A tidy (picked up) home when he gets home from work.
2) A warm meal.
3) Words and touches of affirmation and praise.
So what would be your top 3 for your husband?
Now, prayerfully, strive to daily put those things into practice. Be creative. Ask the Lord to help you please your husband today. Every day.
Some creative ideas you might like to try:
- Send him a snail mail letter – to his work
- Write I love you on the bathroom mirror with soap
- Make his favorite dessert and surprise him with it
- Give him a long back rub
- Get a babysitter and take him out to his favorite restaurant
- Plan an intimate night for just the 2 of you at home
Kim says
Great suggestions! Mine is working overtime today & we are making his favorite cookies, right now!
Angie says
Great ideas!! It is important to acknowledge each other in a marriage. I am not a wife (yet) but I sometimes consider myself soppy, over-emotional, and unorganized, but I thank my fiancee every day for the special things he does for me. Without him I wouldn’t be whole. Thanks Traci
Heather says
Just gotta say, you rock 🙂
Always inspiring.
(Did you see my link to you?)
Amanda says
Great post! I’ll be working on my list.
HIS daughter says
Thanks so much for these suggestions! I am not a wife yet but in 117 days I will be and I want to be the wife I am called to be to him so I am trying to start growing and setting patterns now so these suggestions were very nice indeed 🙂
Blessings!
Mrs. Stam says
LOVE LOVE LOVE this post! there is so many way to be our husband’s cheerleader, nobody else should cheer him on, louder then us!!!
my husband top 3
1. warm coffee in the morning
2. warm food for dinner
3. warm sock to put in feet into
See I think he likes to be ‘warm” hehe!
Chrissy says
Thanks for the reminder! So easy to get distracted with life and forget the things that really matter!
A Little R&R says
Love it. Today I plan: a clean house, a warm meal, and telling him to just take a load off and get a nap. 🙂
singinjenny says
I think our culture needs to get another item right…we need to be kind to him in our speech. Too many people think it is ok to complain and whine about their husband. I hear that from a gal, and I think, here’s someone I need to NOT be around…
hawkeyejlp says
Thanks for the reminder. Sometimes I get grumpy, thinking “Why can’t he see what I need?” but I need to do for him because making him happy makes me happy.