My husband has always loved cars. Sports cars to be exact. He dreams about having his own Summer car one day. Each time he talks about it, that goofy grin is painted all over his face, front and center. I , on the other hand, have flashbacks of Tim the Toolman Taylor, working for years on his car in the garage.
What’s my reaction whenever this topic comes up? I roll my eyes, giggle, and shrug it off as a wasted dream. Would it be wise to get a sports car, with two little toddlers running around? Probably not. Is it a waste of money? Probably.
But instead of rolling my eyes, and downplaying his dream of a sports car, what if I shared in his excitement (just a bit)? “Yeah Babe, that would be really fun one day. What is it about cars that you love so much?”
I know that this is a silly example. But we all do it as wives, right? What hobbies is your husband passionate about? Do you, like me, shrug it off as a waste of time?
I was thinking today, if I squander his dream of Summer’s spent driving down the road with his future Red Dodge Viper’s top down, what else do I squander without realizing it?
My sweet friend Courtney, over at Women Living Well, has had some Summer Marriage Challenges for us ladies. This week, it’s supporting his vision for your family.
July 26 – Support his vision. Discuss his vision for your family. Where does he see your family in 1 year, 5 years, and 10 years. Share with us how you let your husband lead.
Other ways that I do support his dreams and vision for our family (besides red sports cars…. wink wink ) are:
- Sitting down and evaluating our finances together.
- Having heart to heart discussions about the way we discipline our children.
- Supporting new opportunities for growth at his workplace.
- Open to the possibility of moving one day and starting over in a new, unknown place.
I need to remember that my husband NEEDS me to support him. This means TRUSTING him to make wise decisions for our family. Do I think that he is always making a right choice? No. But I need to show (verbally and by action) that I trust him to lead.
Like sports cars, what is one silly dream that your husband has that you (like me) roll your eyes at in silly fun? Maybe consider sharing in all of his dreams and visions… even the ones that we, as wives, think are petty and meaningless. They need to know that we are their #1 cheerleader; in all areas of life.
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Traci Michele says
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Julie@comehaveapeace says
Traci Michele, I can see you in a red sports car! 😉 And these are great examples of how we allow our husband to lead by honoring his vision and dreaming. I love the way you said this: “I need to show (verbally and by action) that I trust him to lead.” You are so right that we are, ultimately, showing our husband that we TRUST him when we get excited about and show interest in his dreams.
Dream on!
~ Julie@comehaveapeace
melody-mae says
wow, awesome post. I think I do this too…squash our husbands dreams without even intending too! wow…I am going to sit down tonight and just ask him, what his dreams are for us…now that we are empty nesters, maybe some of his dreams can actually be a reality? thanks Traci for the post. I am going to wander over and check out that blog too!
Janette@Janette's Sage says
I am married to a “dreamer” for 30 years…and I tend to be toooooooooo practical. I have had to learn this lesson over and over again through our union.
I also blogged a post on a sport car…it was for “ME” after six children I have felt I would enjoy riding with the top down in a two seater! It would be fun to not have to ride around in a eight seater vehicle…my husband and children have dreamed with Me on that!!! My son’s now say they will get me one one day.
Blessings,
Enjoyed
Jami Balmet says
This is a great post Traci! It sounds like me to lol. My hubby talks about what his next car is going to be! He has his dream car in mind to get next. Mind you we are paying off school loans and trying to save for our first house lol. Sometimes I to think I squash his dreams for this…thanks for this post! It made me realize that I can be a little more excited about his dreams whether or not they are realistic! Thanks!
Chris in FL--Joyful Mother says
Good you got your comments up!!
That is such a sweet picture of you two 🙂
You are oh so right about supporting our honeys with their visions and dreams. Sometime I feel like he doesn’t support mine but then when I look around….I am living my vision. He is a hard working man who works so hard to fulfill my desire to be at home with my kids and he is more than willing to deny himself to give to us. wow!!
How much more do I need to support his passions…
thanks for the reminder Traci!
Kathryn says
What a great post, this is so true, and something I definitely need to take more time to do! 🙂
Soaring Eagle says
I enjoyed reading your post.
Emily Fiore says
My husband loves sports cars too and he has given up several to support the “needs” of the family. I do hope that one day we are able (financially) to allow him to have that dream car, if only for a time. 🙂
Cecilia says
Thank you for dropping by my blog and leaving a comment thanks for the encouraging words!!! Love the pic of the sports car 🙂 Cecilia (http://chookygirl.wordpress.com/)
e-Mom says
May your husband have the red sports car of his dreams… and may you enjoy the ride!
Nice to meet you, and Happy Marriage Monday.
Blessings, e-Mom @ Chrysalis ღ
momstheword says
I love that picture! It is gorgeous.
My hubby has always wanted a volkswagon beetle. Isn’t that funny? Cracks me up, haha! He has wanted one since he was a teenager and maybe that’s why he still wants one, because he never got it!
Funny how some of their or our dreams change over the years, and some remain the same.
Thanks for linking up today!
Homemaker Honey says
Traci, thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment today. I’m really enjoying these challenges and have enjoyed meeting other wives committed to their husbands.
Keep looking to Him and carry on, girl!