When I think of submission in marriage, according to the bible, I tend to think of BIG, SPIRITUAL matters; submitting to my husband as the head, allowing Him to lead in the areas of our home.
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
I am truly thankful that I married a man that I can respect and submit to easily (for the most part).
But then there are moments of weakness and stubbornness on my part. I can be a head-strong first-born and so unwilling to budge on certain matters.
When we had a disagreement about a month ago about whether or not we would find out the sex of our 3rd child, I dug my heels in! He wanted to keep it a secret and I wanted to find out. We both weren’t budging! We joked a lot about it, but we both had our minds made up.
I realized that sometimes submission is simply laying down our own will and wishes for what our spouse desires.
End of story.
It sounds simple… and meaningless… but this was something that was really important to me.
The thing is, when I made the choice to sacrifice my desire to find out our baby’s sex, I immediately had peace about it! God changed my heart!
Are there things (seemingly small things) in your marriage that you just won’t budge on? Are they life or death? Are you willing to lay them down for what your spouse desires?
1. Submission isn’t just for the big things… it sometimes means just laying down our desires and putting our spouse’s wishes first.
2. When we choose to put our spouse first, we glorify God.
3. God will give you peace in your submission and change your heart as you have the right intentions.
4. Ask yourself, is this really life or death if I lay down my will in this matter?